Who Do You Love?
About This Booklet
Booklet 5 of 6 in the Loving God series. Here Martha surveys the vast history of man's slavery, all resulting from our desperate need of love, and shines new light on the extraordinary Love who speaks tenderly to us—the faithless Gomers.
God asks us, “Who do you love?”
“You will be driven where you think you find love, you will be fierce with the source of love, and if need be, you will destroy yourself…for love.”
We don’t know what we believe about love, or even what we think love is in the secret place of our hearts. We can spout the right things, but what we believe in the heart is something else. How then can we answer God’s question: “Who do you love?”
“You will go where you think you will be loved. You will do whatever you think will get you love, and you will become whatever you think your idol wants you to be.
“You will go, and do, and become for the sake of your idol—at the loss of your own identity, your destiny, even against your own values, and at the compromise of your own integrity! You will do anything for love, and if you do not know that, you do not know yourself. You do not know humanity.
“Love is your desperate quest, though unseen and unacknowledged. Love is the sole motive of life.
“The problem is: we don’t know where love is or what it is. Even born again in Christ, we often do not know.”
In Who Do You Love?, Martha surveys the vast history of man’s natural state of slavery, all resulting from our desperate need of love, and shines new light on the extraordinary Love who speaks tenderly to us—the faithless Gomers.
“We can’t have both God and the world… So comes the Cross into the process of life and brings its Light on our gods. The Cross comes to expose and eliminate the paltry rivals of God.”
We were created to love—which is what worship is—made to bow down and be ruled.
We are designed for the adoration of an object outside ourselves and beyond our being. And in that to which we bow, we are enslaved.
Everything that is an object of worship—other than the Lord God—is an idol. Everything that is an object of love therefore, can be an object of worship.
You will go where you think you will be loved. You will do whatever you think will get you love, and you will become whatever you think your idol wants you to be.
You will go, and do, and become, for the sake of your idol—at the loss of your own identity, even your destiny, even against your own values, and at the compromise of your own integrity!
You will do anything for love, and if you do not know that, you do not know yourself. You do not know humanity.
Love is your desperate quest, though unseen and unacknowledged. Love is the sole motive of life.
The problem is: we don’t know where love is or what it is. Even born again in Christ, we often do not know. Truly know. We don’t know what we believe about love, or what we think love is, in the secret place of our heart.
We can spout the right things, but what we believe in the heart is something else. The heart is the hidden place of our secret dealings with love, our hope and our grief.
Hosea paints a picture of God’s great heart of love for Israel. Because they did not love Him, they could not see His love for them, nor could they realize that His relationship to Israel was as Husband. His desire was for such loving intimacy that it could be pictured as marriage! The Lord said to Hosea:
Hosea 1:2 NASB
Go, take to yourself a wife of harlotry and have children of harlotry; for the land commits flagrant harlotry, forsaking the Lord…
The story shows how God took Gomer through a process—to take away her gods and turn her worship to Him and He is going to take you and me through the process. Gomer said:
Hosea 2:5 NASB
I will go after my lovers, who give me my bread and my water, my wool and my flax, my oil and my drink.
That is what we do. We will go wherever we believe our source is. And that is not merely idolatry—which is bad enough—God names it spiritual adultery against Him! God said about Gomer: “For she does not know that it was I who gave her the grain, the new wine and the oil, and lavished on her silver and gold” (v. 8).
Gomer went to mankind as her source.
“I will go after my lovers, who gave me my bread and my water” (v. 5).
Our every provision is from God’s tender hand of giving. Though human hands and labor gain it, God Himself is your supply. Therefore, God said: “I will hedge up her way with thorns, and I will build a wall against her so that she cannot find her paths. She will pursue her lovers, but she will not overtake them; and she will seek them, but will not find them” (v. 6-7).
May God do that to us. How kind! We are unfaithful to Him, yet He pursues us. He is faithful!
2 Timothy 2:13 AMP
If we are faithless [do not believe and are untrue to Him] He remains true (faithful to His Word and His righteous character), for He cannot deny Himself.
Hosea 2:7-8 NASB
Then she will say, ‘I will go back to my first husband…’ For she does not know that it was I
who gave her the grain, the new wine and the oil, and lavished on her the silver and the gold.
I remember giving a friend something expensive. She was very poor. She said, “Thank you, Lord.” She never thanked me. But that is how we should be. “Thank you Lord. You provided that, not man.” Humanity is merely the instrument of God’s supply.
“It was I who gave her the grain…” (v. 8).
What you fear, you worship. Because what you fear and who you fear is the one whom you believe has power over you.
That is why God says, “Love Me and fear Me.” Fear paralyzes you. You won’t be able to speak, or be, or choose. So watch your fears, they will tell you where your idols are.
Don’t tell me what you worship, tell me what you fear and I will tell YOU what you worship.
Fear is the tool of the idol—the tool of control. The parent uses fear to control a child. The parent creates an idolater…without a fight. The child will be in bondage of idolatry to the parent. And all of us have used fear! And if fear works…you use that.
Another place you find your idolatries is where you have intense hatred. Hatred is a clue that you were disappointed, not getting the love you wanted. Hatred will be a place of idolatry. What you love owns you… You love the one you think you need to prove your worth and you will hate that same one should it fail to satisfy your need…and it will!
We are ‘in love’ with the world because we want the world to love us. But love of the world murders love for God.
1 John 2:15 AMP
Do not love or cherish the world or the things that are in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in him.
We can’t have both Father and the world… So comes the Cross into the process of life and brings its Light on our gods.
The Cross comes to expose and eliminate the paltry rivals of God.
Then we have before us the terrible choice of Love. What ‘love’ will I lose? Who will I leave? And…what love will I hate? The Cross comes to circumcise your heart to bring you to the repentance that will open your heart to experience the glory of being loved!
So here’s the conclusion:
- From Eden—We know there is no human capacity to love God.
- From Israel—God’s presence and miracles do not ensure that we love Him.
- From the golden calf—We want another god to love, a god we can make.
- From Hosea and Gomer—God’s great anguish as a Lover betrayed.
This is the story of humanity’s non-love for our Lovely God.
God is not affected by our non-love. He is not discouraged. He is not thwarted. He is the Great Lover chasing His beloved…you.
I have been blessed to be chased and in being caught, I wrote this poem.
God’s Love goes deeper than
the center core of Him
to the same in you.
Love pours into the
Love soars over the
Flows through the blue mask
hovering over you and
penetrates the secret
It searches for
your darkest corner,
hounds you to the
last hiding place and
loves you there in
This Love is ever, ever, ever
with you in spite of
you by name…
A pure but veiled torment:
You can run from rules
and places, from persons
You can shun all else but
you cannot stop Love,
nor ever flee from it,
nor easily resist it.
You can refuse every
other query, but Love,
you will answer.
You will give account to love.
Your face gripped in its
vice of holy demand.
Love you will answer:
Yes or No.
And to your last breath
Love will take you and
pursue you and after
your last breath will
take you into the presence
of Love Himself to show you
what you missed—
God’s is a Love so great
that it released you
from slavery to let you
choose whom you
Love will risk losing you
and will tolerate even
your scornful disbelief
in His love and your choice
of all kinds of lesser, paltry
substitutes for love, but…
Love will never stop loving
you or pursuing you.
Note: This poem has been reformatted from the original to accommodate electronic devices.